There’s a particular satisfaction in finally having something of your own to sell.
You’ve taken years of experience, thought carefully about where you can make a difference, and turned that knowledge into something tangible. A consulting service, a digital product, a workshop, or a programme. Something with a name, a price, and a purpose.
You’ve probably spent more time refining it than you originally intended. The description has been rewritten, the price reconsidered, and the website adjusted until you can barely remember what the first version looked like.
But eventually, you decide it’s ready. You publish it, make sure everything works, and enjoy that lovely feeling of having brought something of your own into the world.
And then you discover that creating something valuable and getting someone to buy it are two rather different things.
It’s an interesting adjustment. Especially when you’ve spent decades working in environments where your expertise already had an established place. People knew what you did, understood your responsibilities, and came to you because they needed a problem solved. Your experience had an established context. Much of your professional reputation had been built within it.
Now you’re building that context for yourself.
The experience is still there, but the woman who needs it doesn’t know you exist. Even when she finds you, she may not immediately understand why what you’ve created is relevant to her.
That’s where having an offer begins to become a business.
She Isn’t Buying Your Experience. She’s Buying What It Can Do for Her
One of the things I find particularly interesting about building a business around your own experience is how easily we assume its value will be obvious.
We’ve spent years developing our judgement, solving difficult problems, and learning what works. We know what we’re capable of, and we have plenty of evidence to support it. But the woman considering our offer hasn’t lived through those years with us. And she doesn’t need to.
What she needs to understand is how that experience relates to something she’s trying to achieve or resolve in her own life.
Your professional background helps establish credibility, but the buying decision happens when she recognises her problem in what you’re describing and can see how your offer will help her move forward.
Your experience gives you credibility.
Her problem gives your offer relevance.
You don’t need to explain everything you’ve ever done to demonstrate your value. You need to make the connection between what you know and what she needs clear enough that she can recognise it for herself.
If that connection isn’t immediately apparent, examine how you’re presenting the offer before questioning the value of what you’ve created.
Appreciation Is Lovely. Demand Tells You Something Different
There’s another adjustment that deserves attention, especially if you’re building your business through writing, relationships, or an existing professional network.
People can genuinely appreciate your ideas without having any intention of buying from you. They can enjoy your articles, agree with your observations, and tell you how much they value your perspective. And those relationships matter. Trust doesn’t appear overnight, and I wouldn’t want to build a business where every conversation was treated as a potential transaction.
A purchase tells us that a person has recognised a problem, believes our offer can help, and considers the price worthwhile. It gives us a different kind of evidence from a compliment, a recommendation, or an encouraging comment.
That doesn’t mean one sale proves we have a sustainable business. It means we’ve learned something useful about the relationship between the problem, the offer, and the customer.
And when sales aren’t happening, we need to be just as thoughtful about what that tells us.
It’s tempting to assume the product needs improving, the price needs changing, or the entire idea needs reconsidering. But an offer can be perfectly relevant and still struggle because too few of the right people have encountered it. It can reach the right audience but fail to communicate its value clearly. Or it can attract genuine interest from people who don’t consider the problem important enough to pay to solve right now.
Before you change your offer, understand whether the problem is:
· What you’re selling
· How you’re explaining it
· Who you’re reaching
That distinction can save an extraordinary amount of time, particularly when you’re building a business alongside everything else in your life.
The Offer Needs to Be Seen, Not Just Created
I think many experienced women are far more comfortable demonstrating what they know than inviting someone to buy something from them.
We’re used to being useful. We share ideas, answer questions, contribute to conversations, and help people see situations differently. Those things come naturally after years of working with others, and they’re an excellent foundation for building trust.
But somewhere between sharing our expertise and introducing a paid offer, we can become surprisingly discreet.
We mention the product once, perhaps when it launches, and then return to our usual conversations. We don’t want to sound pushy, and we certainly don’t want every interaction to become a sales pitch. So we assume that anyone who’s interested will find their way to what we’re offering.
Unfortunately, people have rather busy lives. They don’t necessarily remember an announcement from three weeks ago. They aren’t always going to investigate whether the woman whose writing they enjoy also has something they can buy.
You don’t need to sell in every conversation. But you do need to make it reasonably easy for the right person to discover what you offer, understand what it does, and decide whether it’s for her.
Otherwise, you risk becoming very good at building an audience that has no idea you’re also building a business.
And that is a rather expensive form of modesty 😂
Give One Good Offer a Proper Chance
When you’ve created something and the response is quieter than you’d hoped, it’s remarkably easy to find yourself planning the next thing.
A smaller product might be easier to sell. A workshop could attract more interest. Perhaps a different programme would appeal to another audience. And while you’re considering those possibilities, there’s always the website to improve.
Before long, you’ve created an impressive amount of work without learning very much about why the original offer hasn’t sold.
I understand the attraction. Creating something new feels productive. There’s energy in developing an idea, making decisions, and watching something take shape. Finding out whether people actually want to buy it requires a different kind of patience.
But this is where I’d encourage you to stay with one offer long enough to learn from it.
Give the right people a genuine opportunity to encounter it. Talk about the problem it solves and pay attention to the language they use when describing that problem themselves. Notice what they understand immediately, what they question, and where their interest seems to fade.
If someone buys, learn what helped her decide. If someone doesn’t, don’t assume you know why.
Over time, those conversations give you a much better basis for deciding what to change, what to keep, and where to focus your attention. You don’t need to build an elaborate sales system before you understand what works. You need a clear offer, a way to reach the right people, and enough evidence to make informed decisions.
Once you’ve found a way to generate sales, you can begin making that process more consistent without creating another full-time job for yourself. And that’s an important consideration if the whole point of building your own business was to have greater control over your time.
The Work That Comes After Creating
I think there’s something worth acknowledging about this stage of building a business.
You can have decades of experience, excellent judgement, and a strong understanding of how businesses work, and still find yourself learning how to sell something under your own name.
There’s no contradiction in that. You’re working in a different context, with different relationships, and a different kind of responsibility for making things happen.
The experience you’ve accumulated is an enormous advantage, but it doesn’t remove the need to understand your market, communicate clearly, and learn what turns interest into a buying decision.
And I wouldn’t rush past that learning by constantly creating something new.
If you already have an offer, take a good look at what’s happening around it:
· Can the right woman find it?
· Does she recognise the problem it solves?
· Is the value clear, and have you given her a straightforward way to buy?
· Most importantly, do you have enough evidence to know what needs your attention next?
Because the objective isn’t simply to make a sale and celebrate, although I certainly wouldn’t discourage the celebration. 🥂
It’s to understand what made that sale possible, so you can begin creating the conditions for another.
Having something worth selling is a good beginning. Learning how to bring it to the right people is what turns it into a business.
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